Divorce

Divorce is so much more prominent in todays world than it was back in the day. It just makes me so sad, I know that there are circumstances that people need to get out of something that is harmful and for their physical and spiritual safety they need to get out.  However today I think people are just giving up.  They just aren't "happy" anymore, but are they? Or is it they are just not trying anymore.  I have no idea I am not a therapist or doctor these are just the thoughts of my head.  I think that divorce comes in stages, first people argue, then they argue more.  After they stop arguing is when they realize that they are done, they have given up.  I am so glad that I married someone that even though I am far from perfect he puts up with me everyday and I know that he will never give up on me.

Parenting

Parenting is huge.  Its like the number one most stressful job in the world. There are so many different styles of parenting and there are millions of children in the world and every child is different.  I have been reading alot about the styles of parenting and the studies of Steinberg and Kohn.  A few of the principles that I love about parenting that are in these books are, that the child is the child.  Children are still children and I think that some parents struggle with that.  They want there children to remember what they want constantly and when they have a little tantrum its not okay.  However, children have tantrums! They are children.  Obviously we need to have some control and tell them that is not okay. Another thing that we need to remember is that the relationship with our children is more important than anything else in the world.  When there are battles happening and we want to stop them just remember that they are children and that we love them.

Fathers

Fathers are so important.  Hands down.  We have been studying whether or not fathers are important in the development of the children.  I was raised in a family where both my mom and dad were heavily present in my life and lead to be the person I am today.  My dad was a rockstar at being a dad, like he was there for everything.  He knew when to back off and give me space and he knew when to break into me and just let me know his thoughts.  I know that my dad was MY dad for a reason and that I was sent to the family I was.  There is hard research now that shows that families with out a father present they are more likely to live in poverty, get into drugs, and not do as well in education.  People need a father or father like figure in their lives.  The mom and dad both have different qualities to add to the development of the child and we need both sides of that.